Once you choose your college, one of the first things you’ll start thinking about is who you want as a roommate. You may wonder should I be rooming with a friend in college?
This might be something that is very worrisome for many students because it will be the first time that they are actually living on their own with a roommate.
The first thing that you might do is think of all the people that you know that are attending the school. You might want to choose someone that you already know as opposed to rooming with a stranger.
Now, there are many different opinions about this.
Some people may say that if you room with your best friend you’ll end up hating them. Now, believe me, this is not always true. It is really different for every person and every friendship that goes through this sort of change.
Some people feel comfortable going through this big of a change with someone or they already know. Whereas, others feel comfort in starting over and doing something on their own. Once again, this is really just something that is up to each individual person.
I personally roomed with my best friend from high school, it worked out better than everyone thought that it would.
The reason for this is that we were not only good friends, but we were very good roommates.
The things that we did not have in common, worked out well as roommates.
The thing that you need to remember when you’re choosing a roommate, is that if they were already your friend you want to make sure that they will be an actual good roommate. Living with someone is a lot different than being friends with them.
If you are a neat freak and your best friend is always organized and all over the place, then you will probably not be good roommates and it may have a bad effect on your relationship. My roommate and I are both organized and clean people, so that worked out well as roommates.
I go to bed late, and I’m a heavy sleeper. Because of this her having early classes did not affect me at all. These are the types of things that you really need to think about so that you don’t have a miserable first year.
You don’t want to ruin a friendship over this.
Here are some tips and tricks to go about deciding if you should room with a certain friend in college.
Sleep at college
A very important part of deciding if your friend will be a good roommate is their sleep schedule. If you were someone who stays up until three in the morning every night and your friend likes to go to bed at 10 PM, then there could be a problem.
This may not seem like a big deal until you realize that you’re going to be dealing with this every night for an entire year. This is only if your roommate is noisy and loud or you are a light sleeper. This can work if they stay up later it just depends on how aware your roommate will be of the noise.
Once again you don’t want something as stupid as a sleep schedule to ruin a good friendship.
Now, you can always talk this over with them and try to see if there is something that you can come up with. But in the end, it is probably only going to cause a fight and either way you were both going to keep up with your same sleep schedule.
You also want to think about if they are going to be respectful of you sleeping when you have a big test exam.
Sleeping can really affect your overall test-taking skills, and you don’t want your roommate to disturbing your sleep every time you have a big exam.
You also want to think about what time they’re going to be getting up in the morning. If you were going to schedule all of your classes at noon or later, and your friend is going to schedule them all at eight in the morning, then you know that there is probably going some times where you both need to watch the noise.
You don’t want to get irritated with them all the time, and you don’t want there to constantly be a reason for you to be mad at them. Believe me, you would rather get a random roommate and stay friends with your best friend, than ruin a friendship over trying to be college roommates.
I know this is hard to understand, but believe me when I tell you that you do not want to be roommates with all of the people that you were very good friends with. Living with someone really shows a different side of people, and you are just not meant to live with many of your friends.
With this being said, don’t let the stray you from rooming with one of your friends if you think you would actually be a good roommate with them.
If you know that one of your really good friends who’s going to the same university as you were a really big partier in high school you definitely want to think about that when considering them as a roommate.
This is something that can have a really big toll on friendships and relationships.
Let’s say that you are not a big party person, however, your roommate likes to go out three times a week. This means that you’re going to have to deal with your roommate getting home late three times a week and possibly waking you up.
You are also going to have to deal with them after they’ve been at a party which is not always an ideal situation. Basically, if this is going to irritate you and affect your overall time as a college student.
This goes along with you as well. If you think that you are someone who is a social butterfly and maybe going out frequently, then you probably don’t want a roommate who goes to bed at 10 and stays in every night. It’s these kinds of things that you really have to think about in order to have the best college experience.
Basically, you want to make sure that you are picking them because they will be a good roommate and not just because they are your friends. You want to enjoy your overall college experience, not ruin a friendship that you’ve had since fifth grade. And just because it has worked for other people, like me, doesn’t mean that it’ll work with every group of friends.
I know for a fact that if I would have roomed with some of my other friends, it would not have gone as well as it did.
When you first get to college your freshman year, you are definitely going to rely on the people that you know. You may levitate to your roommate or a friend you know that goes there. This is normal to try and hang with people you are familiar with at school.
One big key is to make sure you hang out with people that have the same feelings about school as you do. If you are a very determined person with school, you don’t want to choose someone who normally doesn’t care about their grades. You want someone who is going to encourage you to do better in school and get involved in as many things as you can.
Believe it or not who you surround yourself with really does have an effect on you and your overall college experience. So just make sure that you were somewhat on the same page about the importance of schoolwork. Because remember, the entire reason that you’re even here is to get a college education.
I know people who joined fraternities and sororities when they get into college life. When you join an organization like that you will run into many different types of people. Some focus on grades and other focus on partying when getting to school. You need to lock in with the ones that focus on school.
I know it is easy to get into the party life but you can strike a balance between having fun and studying. It takes discipline and control to resist the party mentality.
You will need a roommate that is clean if you are very clean. This can create a bunch of problems with not only living area cleanliness but kitchen issues as well.
- Kitchen – You need a system to keep dishes and the kitchen clean. If the dishes pile up then you can get some pretty bad smells that will start to come up. You also have the cockroach issue if the kitchen is dirty. Once you get cockroaches, they are very difficult to get rid of in the house or apartment.
- Living room – You come home and trash from Wendy’s is strewn across the coffee table. I had a roommate that would not pick up the trash from the coffee table or kitchen table and put it in the trash can. This roommate was a slab and after one year I had to move out because he was just nasty. Taking out the trash is another chore that people living together need to keep on top of or it can get smelly fast.
- Bedrooms – Usually you can shut the door so this may not affect you as much but a smelly room can permeate the whole apartment.
- Bathroom – Who will clean and will the roommate make the bathroom disgusting. You have to take out the trash, clean the tub and toilet every week. If your roommate does not help that will suck doing the cleaning all year long.
Overall there are many good and bad things about rooming with someone that you already know. I can go effortlessly and really help the overall experience of your first year. It can really help you transition into college and feel comfortable making friends and having these new changes in your life.
However, it could also go the other way and ruin a friendship. So just make sure that you think long and hard about all the different aspects of going to picking a college roommate before you tell your best friend that your room with her. Your friend being mad for a little bit about not rooming with you is better than not being friends for the rest of your life.
However, if you really can find someone who will be a good friend and roommate at the same time then you hit the jackpot.
You will need to make other friends besides your roommate so read how to make friends in college.